Any couple who wants to remain friendly with each other, effectively co-parent, or who just wants the divorce to be a good faith process, can benefit from mediation. The traditional legal approach to divorce views the relationship between the parties as adversarial, and the continued existence of the relationship is of little consequence. Mediation is a non-adversarial alternative, which is particularly useful when the continued relationship of the parties is important. If there are children of the marriage, the parents can work together through mediation to promote the best interests of the children. Because the whole process fosters respectful communication, it encourages the divorcing couple to demonstrate compassion and understanding for each other. The cooperative nature of the process can ease the emotional strain caused by the breakup of a relationship and protect the well-being of the children, thus minimizing the divorce’s impact on the family.
After 16 years and one child, my partner and I were separating. We hadn’t been able to communicate for years, and knew the challenges involved in a separation would require a skilled mediator. Camille King came as a recommendation from a friend. After a few hour long meetings, we were able to arrive at an agreement, had the papers submitted, and are both now able to co-parent and live apart. The decisions we made in her office left us with a healthy blueprint for moving forward in our lives.”
Mediation is typically less expensive than a traditional, litigated divorce. It is also usually much faster than litigation. Because mediation can be scheduled at the parties’ convenience, rather than waiting for the courts’ availability, most couples resolve all issues in 6-9 months. Once the parties reach a settlement agreement, I transform their agreement into a formal legal document that becomes a court order.
Mediation is flexible. Unlike a traditional, court-based process, mediating your divorce allows you to create an agreement that is customized to you and your spouse’s needs. At the outset, I offer a roadmap for the process and provide clarity about California law. For couples who have complicated financial issues, I offer co-mediation with myself and a financial expert. And, where coparenting conflict would benefit from the expertise of a family therapist, I offer co-mediation with a mental health professional.